The Magic of Love By KB

The magic and the feelings of love are so over looked and underrated. The feelings are so intense, yet, indescribable. I believe that trying to define love is like trying to define perfection; its definition is ever changing and ever evolving. Words cannot begin to describe the pleasures and emotions that love brings.

When love is good, all’s right with the world. You sit around all moonie - eyed waiting for that special someone to walk your way or to call. Forget about concentrating on anything without that person finding their way into your every thought. Butterflies run free in your tummy whenever you hear their voice or they happen to come near. God help you’re doing anything that requires a touch; I all of a sudden become the Scarecrow from the Wizard of Oz (human jello). I also lose my ability to speak at times when I look in and get lost in the eyes of the special somebody (I often hear them laughing at my inability to form sentences or when my voice gets Don Knotts shaky).That special someone has the voice of an angel and when they speak I feel as if they are touching my soul; playing my heart as a virtuoso. I stand in awe of their ability to see and hear things in me that I cannot recognize, both good and bad. I love the fact that this person has open doors in my life and caused me to explore things that I wouldn’t have otherwise chosen to do. I like that this person has prompted me to be a better being and has done so just by their presence (no nagging, game playing or “I’m going to change you” attitude). I love the fact that this person is deeply spiritual and has helped me to reconnect to my Higher Power.

The romantic in me tells me that everyday is Christmas. I strive to keep the “magic” by doing little things just to let the person know just how much they mean to me. (This is a habit that everyone should work on developing-you never know what could happen in someone’s day. I learned to express my feelings late in life so I’m a bit rough around the edges at times, but, at the same time I am so very grateful for the gift of love.)

I am also a realist, when love is bad it can be very bad. I’ve lived on the battlefield of “love gone wrong” and it has really helped me to decide what I will and will not accept from another human being who swears, by all that is holy, to love me. I’ve lived in the trenches for most of my childhood, growing up in a home rife with domestic violence; vowing never to repeat the cycle. The cycle found me: I am ashamed to say that I have at times been angry, aggressive and at times violent (self-defense).  But, I also want to say that the cycle of domestic violence taught me to be a “good codependent” and I chose partners who were needy. (at times substance abusers). The battlefield of “love gone wrong” keeps you in the trenches ever vigilant guarding life, limb and feelings from the weapons of lies and manipulation. I’ve had my heart pierced and crushed in these relationships because I am an incurable romantic and I extended trust to someone who too self serving and did not know how to or intend to protect it.

 

1 Corinthians 13

1 If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am become sounding brass, or a clanging cymbal.

2 And if I have [the gift of] prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.

3 And if I bestow all my goods to feed [the poor], and if I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profiteth me nothing.

4 Love suffereth long, [and] is kind; love envieth not; love vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,

5 doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not its own, is not provoked, taketh not account of evil;

6 rejoiceth not in unrighteousness, but rejoiceth with the truth;

7 beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

8 Love never faileth: but whether [there be] prophecies, they shall be done away; whether [there be] tongues, they shall cease; whether [there be] knowledge, it shall be done away.

9 For we know in part, and we prophesy in part;

10 but when that which is perfect is come, that which is in part shall be done away.

11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, I felt as a child, I thought as a child: now that I am become a man, I have put away childish things.

12 For now we see in a mirror, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know fully even as also I was fully known.

13 But now abideth faith, hope, love, these three; and the greatest of these is love.

I keep repeating this passage of the Bible because it is the best definition of a mature and healthy love

Where am I on the spectrum of love? I am very fortunate and blessed to say that I have someone in my life that I care for very deeply. They embody all that I want and need in a partner…spiritual, kind, and gentle, smart and oh so good looking…..where will it go?

 (Only God knows)….I’m just grateful to my Higher Power for this individual…..

want you to know
You take my breath away
And it's been that way right from the start
I didn't know how to tell you
That I want to love you
With every beat of my heart – (Brian McKnight)

There's nothing better than love
What in the world
could you ever be thinking of
It's better by far
So let yourself reach for that star
And go no matter how far
To the one you love
To love
And I mean all these words I said
And you don't have to guess
what's going on inside me head
Just try to know
All the things that our heart says
Listen to love and always
get love to lead the way
Whenever you love – (Luther Vandross)

Always and forever
Each moment with you
Is just like a dream to me
That somehow came true, yeah

And I know tomorrow
Will still be the same
Cuz we got a life of love
That won't ever change and

Everyday love me your own special way
Melt all my heart away with a smile
Take time to tell me you really care
And we'll share tomorrow together
Ooh baby, I'll always love you forever

Ever, ever, ever
There'll always be sunshine
When I look at you
It's something I can't explain
Just the things that you do
If you get lonely
Call me and take
A second to give to me
That magic you make and

Everyday love me your own special way
Melt all my heart away with a smile
Take time to tell me you really care
And we'll share tomorrow together
Ooh baby, I'll always love you forever – (Heatwave)