How Do You Treat Love?

I was surfing the net, like I do, when I came across a video by Donnie McClurkin. (a popular African American preacher and gospel singer)

https://www.facebook.com/video.php?v=805273712828472

In his video Donnie discussed how we treat love; namely how we use it as a form of punishment and reward. I had to give it thought…have I ever done it? I hate to admit it but the answer was an unequivocal, emphatic and then a shame filled yes!

I’ve been thinking about this for several days now; always coming back to the questions: who do I think I am? Where do I get off? and What do my actions say about me?

My mama always taught, when you know better you’re supposed to do better. I don’t know about you as an individual but character defects bug me, personally, to no end. I want to be a better person than I was the previous day 

STEP 4  "Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves."

A business which takes no regular inventory usually goes broke. Taking commercial inventory is a fact-finding and a fact-facing process. It is an effort to discover the truth about the stock-in-trade. One object is to disclose damaged or unsalable goods, to get rid of them promptly and without regret. If the owner of the business is to be successful, he cannot fool himself about values.

We did exactly the same thing with our lives. We took stock honestly. First, we searched out the flaws in our make-up which caused our failure. Being convinced that self, manifested in various ways, was what had defeated us, we considered its common manifestations.
-A.A. Big Book p.64