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Deni
I heard my mother yelling my name but I chose to ignore the
shrill tone because I’d come to recognize that the tone would be followed by a
list of chores and commands and I was determined to enjoy the few stolen
moments of entertainment.”
“Deni ! You hear me stop bouncing that damn ball in my house
and come upstairs and clean up this damn room like I asked you to an hour ago!”
My birth certificate says Denise but I've been called Deni
ever since I can remember. It’s all good
because nothing about me or my personality particularly screams the femininity
that Denise commands.
“I did ma!” I yelled
back while I still practiced a crossover dribble I’d seen at the playground.
“Oh, I suppose this pile of dirty clothes is going to walk
to the laundry room? I guess this pile of lumps is pretending to be a made bed?
And, I also suppose I didn't tell you to stop bouncing that damn ball in my
house?” She yelled as she suddenly
appeared at the top of the stairs; my visual cue to cease and desist.
Mama was in a cleaning frenzy. She always got mad, crazy,
Beverley Hillbillies spring cleaning busy whenever someone said they were going
to stop by. The house was always spotless but mama got hyper-vigilant when she
was expecting church or family.
I saw no reason to put any effort into my room because it
was upstairs; I was never allowed to have visitors in my room, so, they had no
reason to see my bed or my laundry. The
thought of dirty laundry sends my mother into an OCD spin out so I ventured
upstairs to correct the cited flaws.
As I climbed the stair I could hear my mother in a full on
conversation with herself; most people would think a spoken conversation with
oneself would indicate some form of mental illness but anyone who has been
raised by a black woman from the South will tell you that it is 100% normal;
it’s a form of venting frustration.
I stopped and listened as I watched my mother snap hospital
corners on her bed linens.
“How, she gonna tell me, at the last minute, that she‘s
stoppin’ by with Madea (an age old and traditional mispronunciation of Ma
Dear). I guess it’s her way of tellin’ me that I ain’t pulling my weight with
takin’ care of Madea. Hell! Her kids are all grown and outta the house. She
ain’t got no husband and she’s retired! Why can’t she take care of Madea?”
The escalation of self-talk was a bad sign. I knew that mama
and Aunt Delores were going to get into their ongoing argument about taking
care of grandma. I also knew that when the argument started no subject would be
off limits and I’ve heard enough snide comments about me from my cousins to
last me a lifetime; I really don’t need to hear comments directly from the
horse’s ass.
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