REVERSE THE CHARGES BY:KB © 3.16.15

Some of you may remember this…for you youngsters I will have to explain.

Back in the day long distance phone calls used to cost a ton of money. You used to only get a long distance call because something heavy duty had happened. As the cost decreased, it was still a burden for the working stiff, we learned a magic phrase for the lucky individual who was blessed enough to handle the cost…. “REVERSE THE CHARGES”

Unfortunately some of us have taken something that was supposed to be beneficial and learned how to use and abuse it. I say this because we have learned how to REVERSE THE CHARGES when we've done something wrong. We've become astute at blaming others or skirting responsibility by justifying and rationalizing our poor choices and behavior. We dismiss people and situations like their part of a movie script. We talk about communication and building bridges but unfortunately the bridges are the backs of people that we've stepped on to get to the next person.

I have been guilty of all of the above…I have to say I approach things differently now. When things start to get shaky, and begin to fall apart, when red flags start waving in the breeze, I immediately get by myself and pray for direction. I am compelled to follow the word of God….

Matthew 5: 21- 24     21 “You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not murder; and whoever murders will be liable to judgment.’ 22 But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother will be liable to judgment; whoever insults his brother will be liable to the council; and whoever says, ‘You fool!’ will be liable to the hell of fire. 23 So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, 24 leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.

When things erode can and do you look at the part you played in the progression? Do you apologize?

Now there are going to be times in life where an apology that you expect will never come but don’t let that change you…take ownership of YOUR part, apologize and confess…repent and move on. If an individual chooses to hold on to anger, assign blame, hold a grudge, etc…. it is none of your business at this point. If you know that your apology was sincere and you have confess and repented for your part…pray for the other person, praise God for yourself and move on!