Thursday, March 26, 2015

Might As Well Face It….. BY: KB © 3.26.15


Grandma always said “tell the truth and shame the devil”…I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard or used the phrase myself….

In my attempts to walk my talk it’s time to be real, raw and 100% transparent ….I used my grandma’s phrase because I tend to dwell in our 51st state, the state of denial. So let me burst my own bubble of some of my intermittent insights…

Hi, I’m KB and I’m a hopeless romantic, which translates to (love addict)…which is not necessarily a bad thing but I have to say in my case it is….please note…love addiction in my case has nothing to do with sex…it’s an emotional set up: “Love addiction is a human behavior in which people become addicted to the feeling of being in love. Love addicts can take on many different behaviors. Love addiction is common; however, most love addicts do not realize they are addicted to love…”

Wikipedia defines love addiction as follows: A common process of falling into love addiction begins when a person begins to feel sympathy with another person after going through an initially innocent moment of attraction and automatically idealizes the other to the point of divinity. The individual is then blindly attached to the other person, becoming incapable of making a realistic analysis of the situation; they may project all kinds of illusions onto the other person, believing them to be the only one that can bring happiness. This process can be very quick. There are, however, those who never go past this stage of blind love, and remain 'addicted to people, sucking on them and gobbling them up...parasitism, not love'.

I can emphatically say that I do not idealize the object of my affection to the point of divinity…and I am fully capable of making realistic analysis and can/will call the individual out when need be….I’m more addicted to the euphoric feeling and trying to maintain that “high” if you will. I’m more of a codependent for maintaining happiness….I’m not minimizing it’s an illness and I am recognizing how it manifests itself and how I feed and nurture the madness……….

REAL TALK: My need to “keep” the happy leads me to unhappy people so in essence there is never going to be a balance or reciprocity….

I am content with being by myself , waiting on and listening to God; I am no longer willing to take on someone else’s character defects  while neglecting what needs to be healed in my life
Can you look at and address your character defects?

How ya livin’?!

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