I’m tired of hearing cliché’s and other subtle delusions to justify
“craptacular” rude, inconsiderate and just flat out selfish behaviors.
I saw this week memes -
hurt people hurt people…yeah well that may be true but when do we stop allowing
the hurt? When do we redirect the person to get help, not yell at them and try
to micromanage their lives for them (if that’s the case then you need to look
at why are you friends with kids); and when do we determine that we love them
enough to leave them the hell alone because we love to maintain our health and
emotional well-being? At what point do we stop playing victims and embracing the
fact that we are volunteers? I’ll tell you when! We gain insight into our irrational thinking the
moment that we realize that our own lives have become unmanageable. That’s
right good ol’ Step 1 (you don’t have to be an addict to work the Steps….we are
ALL in recovery from something.)
Many of us are raging dry drunks…Dry drunk is a slang
expression infamously known in the sober community. It describes a person who
no longer drinks or abuses drugs, but continues to behave in dysfunctional
ways. Poor me….what about me?....It’s really
not all about you Boo! When those questions come out of your mouth you’re
seeking to have some kind of emotional need met and you’re looking to someone
to rescue you….however it is all about you in that you need to get back to the
Steps
Our irrational responses to certain situations are a direct
result of not addressing character defects and revisiting old scenarios and
playing them out with new personnel. We’re using beta-max and laser disks coping
skills in a Blu-ray world. Our emotional mixed tapes are trying to compete with
our mp 3 present.
I read this in one of my devotionals this morning:
I had been driving for almost half an hour when my daughter
suddenly wailed from the backseat. When I asked, “What happened?” she said her
brother had grabbed her arm. He claimed he had grabbed her arm because she had
pinched him. She said she pinched him because he had said something mean.
Unfortunately, this pattern, which is common between
children, can show up in adult relationships too. One person offends another,
and the hurt person shoots back a verbal blow. The original offender retaliates
with another insult. Before long, anger and cruel words have damaged the
relationship.
The Bible says that “the
words of the reckless pierce like swords,” and that “a harsh word stirs up
anger” but “a gentle answer turns away wrath” (Prov. 12:18; 15:1). And
sometimes not answering at all is the best way to deal with mean or cruel words
or comments.
Before Jesus’ crucifixion, the religious authorities tried
to provoke Him with their words (Matt. 27:41-43). Yet, “When they hurled their
insults at him, he did not retaliate . . . . Instead, he entrusted himself to
him who judges justly” (1 Peter 2:23).
Jesus’ example and the Spirit’s help offer us a way to
respond to people who offend us. Trusting the Lord, we don’t need to use words
as weapons.
When we trust the Lord, we don't need to use words as
weapons. We don’t have to have over the top emotional responses. We learn
to tame our fears and temper our words
Where are you unmanageable?
How ya livin’?
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