We all have that one friend that is quick to offer advice….you
know, that one person that seems to start every sentence with “You should……..”
I hate to tell you this but when I hear a sentence starting with those two
words that person automatically begins to sound like Charlie Brown’s teacher
and I find myself thinking “you should mind your own business!” Don’t you think
if I wanted help I know enough to ask for it?
Some things are just meant for us to wrestle with; like
Jacob, we have to wrestle with some things until it blesses us. Some things are
just meant to be uncomfortable, ugly leaving us spent and rent. Some things are
meant to incinerate our character defects and are not for your friends to understand
or help with.
Now, the thing that vexes me (get ready because some of you
are going to get mad) is that more often than not, that well-meaning friend has
a hidden agenda ( now, you can go into denial about this if you want to but y’all
know that I ain’t Willie Wonka – meaning I ain’t sugar coating a damn thing to accommodate
people) That well-meaning friend is offering advice from a level of superiority….even
if they’ve been through a similar situation….their situation AIN’T yours! Their
word AIN’T God’s !
Now, don’t get me
wrong God does provide messengers and instructors but you have to steal away
and reflect on what is He showing you. That well-meanings friend often offers
information based on their own unresolved work on old wounds, hurts and fragile
ego. That well-meaning friend often offers information based on their belief
that THEY did the internal work…..
So what am I saying? Look at the life of the person that is
speaking as the authority……
Now, God tells me what I SHOULD DO…..work beside me in
encouragement telling me what you’ve seen me do and tell me what I COULD DO!
How ya livin’?!
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