Thursday, July 16, 2015

Look at you ….”shoulding” all over people By: KB 7.16.15

We all have that one friend that is quick to offer advice….you know, that one person that seems to start every sentence with “You should……..” I hate to tell you this but when I hear a sentence starting with those two words that person automatically begins to sound like Charlie Brown’s teacher and I find myself thinking “you should mind your own business!” Don’t you think if I wanted help I know enough to ask for it?

Some things are just meant for us to wrestle with; like Jacob, we have to wrestle with some things until it blesses us. Some things are just meant to be uncomfortable, ugly leaving us spent and rent. Some things are meant to incinerate our character defects and are not for your friends to understand or help with.

Now, the thing that vexes me (get ready because some of you are going to get mad) is that more often than not, that well-meaning friend has a hidden agenda ( now, you can go into denial about this if you want to but y’all know that I ain’t Willie Wonka – meaning I ain’t sugar coating a damn thing to accommodate people) That well-meaning friend is offering advice from a level of superiority….even if they’ve been through a similar situation….their situation AIN’T yours! Their word AIN’T God’s ! 

Now, don’t get me wrong God does provide messengers and instructors but you have to steal away and reflect on what is He showing you. That well-meanings friend often offers information based on their own unresolved work on old wounds, hurts and fragile ego. That well-meaning friend often offers information based on their belief that THEY did the internal work…..

So what am I saying? Look at the life of the person that is speaking as the authority……

Now, God tells me what I SHOULD DO…..work beside me in encouragement telling me what you’ve seen me do and tell me what I COULD DO!



How ya livin’?!

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