Yesterday I posted a line from the song “Back Stabbers”
The line goes “ a few of yo’ buddies sure look shady..” but
I changed the lyric to sho’ nuff shady. I changed the lyrics because the
situation I was witness to was somewhat similar to an experience I had and it
pisses me off every time I see it played out. This incident was especially
painful to watch play out because I know one of the people and they have a
sweet spirit and I know that this only served to harden them just a tiny bit.
So periodically I delete a few facebook “friends” because I
don’t know them and how they even became a part of my facebook in the first
place. Whenever I do my “spring cleaning” I manage to inadvertently delete a
few people I genuinely like. So long story short ( I know too late, right?!!!)
I deleted some folks and by the time I realized that “Hey ol’ so and so hasn’t
said anything in a while…” I look ‘em up and they’ve completely disappeared. I
look up their girl and OH SNAP!!!! she’s hugged up with someone else in photos.
Of course I say something to ol’ girl and I get this short and somewhat shitty
response back. I tell her that whatever transpired was between her and my
friend ….I ain’t got nothin’ (yup grammatically correct for this
situation) to do with what went down. I’m still friends with both of you ….I got dust in the way of a response and
heard crickets… this was some months ago….
Yesterday after I was scrolling through IG I was able to
piece together the back story. Ol’ girl had hooked up with someone that was
allegedly in the “crew” and my young buddy was to green (ol’ girl was only her
second serious LTR) to see the signs.
You have to establish group/crew rules from the gate and let
your peeps know that nothing strains a relationship harder than dating ex’s or
family members and if it’s off limits tell the crew from the very beginning.
Now, for me, this goes without saying because there is just
some shit you don’t do if you view yourself as a decent human being but some
folks have to be told this ….and that’s what pisses me off. Why don’t they see
that they’re damaging relationship and connections on a very deep level…
To the player involved….just know the same way you swooped
on ol’ girl is going to be the same way you lose her. How to you feel posin’
and snapping pics with this woman when a few short months ago you were in her “family”
pics? Don’t say you’re in love because
up until you rode up she was in love with someone else….
Another message for you player….some women only serve to
teach you some hard life lessons and you’re about to learn that you were
something to do until the nest great love rolls up…so think about how you slithered
in when the next snake shows up.
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